The Union by Wet For Her is a “strapless strap on”. Essentially, it’s a double ended dildo with one bulbous end that is meant to be held inside one partner’s vagina using the kegel muscles. The longer end can then be used for penetrative sex. The Union is made by Wet For Her, a company that makes toys marketed specifically towards lesbians. Their toys thus generally avoid “realistic” phallic designs, though the CSPH acknowledges that many lesbians and their partners have penises, Wet For Her makes great options for those who prefer not to have explicitly penis-shaped toys for whatever reason. The Union is made of silicone with a velvety texture. Both ends of the toy are bendable because of a copper wire in the middle of the silicone, making it easy to adjust the toy’s angle. In front of the bulb is a ridged area meant to rub against the clitoris of the wearer. Underneath that is a hole for a removable bullet vibrator. It comes with a bullet vibe that has three different speeds, though you can you replace the vibrator with any other bullet vibe that you have.
The toy comes in black, pastel purple, or pink. There are three different sizes, which vary in the diameter of the longer end. The small is 1.06 inches, medium is 1.38 inches, and large is 1.61 inches in diameter. However, the bulb size and toy length remain consistent across sizes. The Union’s longer end is 5.9 inches long. The bulb is 3.1 inches long and 1.5 inches in diameter at its widest point.
Things to Note:
Strapless strap ons like the Union can be great for both partnered and solo play! Because the bulb, bullet vibrator, and ridged portion provide stimulation for the wearer, some folks may find touching and “jerking off” the longer end to be pleasurable. This is just one of the ways that strapless strap ons can be incredibly gender-affirming toys! For trans folks looking for a gender-affirming toy, the Union might not be an ideal option because of its less realistic design. Additionally because the toy is inserted inside the wearer, folks should be aware of how they respond to penetration.
A common complaint with strapless strap ons is that the bulb can be very difficult to hold in. What initially might look like simple a way around the difficulties of straps and buckles can end up being incredibly frustrating. When buying any strapless strap on, folks should consider that a harness may in fact still be necessary. That being said, the size and flared shape of the internal bulb may make it easier to hold inside than some other options out there. In order to effectively hold the toy inside the wearer, the bulb is relatively wide. This may be uncomfortable for some folks. However, it does seem to do its intended job. Further, some people may find that the shape of the internal bulb is not compatible with the internal structure of their vagina.
A unique feature of the Union is the wire core of the toy. This has two functions. It allows the toy to bend, which can help stimulate particular areas or enable different positions. Additionally, the core helps the Union to keep its shape. This avoids the floppiness of some other strapless strap ons. The added stiffness may be helpful in keeping the toy in place inside of you.
The ridges meant to stimulate the wearer’s clitoris are another special feature of the toy. They provide extra stimulation for the wearer through the motion of the toy. However, the ridges are relatively small and because of the hardness of the silicone the ridges have very little give. This means they may press into the body uncomfortably depending on the wearer’s anatomy and sensitivity.
The Union is made of silicone. This means there is a chance of interaction with silicone-based lube that can degrade the toy. The Union is made of relatively high-grade silicone. The higher the grade of silicone in the toy and the lube, the less the likelihood of interaction. To be sure if the Union will interact with your fave lube, do a spot test. Find an area that won’t be inserted into anyone and dab some lube on that spot. Leave it for a week and see if there are any changes.
Keeping it Clean
The Union is made of silicone, which makes it sterilizable (very important for toys that will be shared with partners!). Boiling for a few minutes, putting in the dishwasher on the sanitize setting, or soaking in a 10% bleach solution will make sure the toy is squeaky clean. Just be sure to remove the bullet vibe first! If you won’t be sharing the toy or are fluid bonded with your partner, it can be cleaned reasonably well with soap and water. For easy clean up, one end of the Union can be covered with a condom. However, because most condoms are packaged with silicone lube, getting unlubricated condoms is your best bet to avoid any toy degradation.
While The CSPH does its best to provide thorough and unbiased product reviews, it should be noted that the information here is not a substitute for medical instruction or advice. The CSPH is not responsible for accidents that may occur from the use of this product. Please contact your medical provider if you have any further questions or concerns.