Every Wednesday The CSPH highlights a Sexuality Professional you should keep your eye on. Their backgrounds are very diverse in order to bring attention to the wide variety of amazing people working in the field. This week we bring you Ev’Yan Whitney!
1. What do you do in the field of sexuality?
I’m a writer & voice for women’s sexuality. With honeyed prose, I elicit shameless conversations surrounding sensual expression & connecting to our deepest, most carnal desires. My work is centered around my own personal struggles & triumphs regarding sexuality, & through sharing my vulnerabilities I inspire others to open up themselves.
2. Where are you based out of?
3. What is your focus? What do you do?
My focus has been on the expression of the sexual: what it looks like, feels like (both physically & spiritually), what it’s driven by, & why. After years of being sexually stifled — by religion, societal pressures, my own self — I’ve embarked on a journey to satiate my hunger & discover the depths of my eroticism. In the last year, I’ve gone from a pseudo sexless marriage to being the proud curator & celebrator of my sexual desires.
So I write from that. I write from my personal experience, from the peak of my own sexual liberation, & from the passion I have for being a turned on, fully aware, & sexual being.
4. What are your particular goals and passions in the field?
I want to help lead women (& men) into sexual/sensual liberation.
5. Why did you choose to work in this field?
I’m incredibly fascinated by sex. I’m fascinated by our bodies, how they often tell us what they really want, yet we push those desires away to be “good girls.” But I’m especially fascinated by the spirituality of sex; how it’s very much about energy & an underlying intuitiveness that goes beyond words. We are conditioned to believe that sex is either this nonchalant thing that people do to simply get off, or that it’s this sinful, lustful act we should abstain from. On my journey, I’m healing the wounds from those gross falsehoods & am diving into the more divine & otherworldly part of sex, the side that our mothers never taught us about.
6. Where did you go for school/training?
From the School of Life. All of my work is garnered from my life’s work & innate wisdom.
7. Do you have any literature out (websites, articles)?
You can find me at my digital sensual sanctuary, sexloveliberation.com. My ebooklet accompanies the site & goes deeper into my philosophies about sexuality, self-love, & becoming sensually liberated.
You can also find me on Twitter: @ev_yan
8. What would you recommend to future professionals attempting to get into the field?
Practice what you preach.
9. What is the most challenging aspect for you working in this career?
I’m often working with a lot of core wounding regarding sex, & it can be hard for others to read my words of hope & not fully believe that they themselves are already sexual creatures; that there’s nothing for them to achieve except for forgiveness, self-love, & openness. Everyone’s sexual trauma looks different & I’m still learning what it means to tailor my work in a way where it’ll reach all walks of life.
10. One must read-what would you recommend? Why?
For Yourself, by Lonnie Barbach. This book started me on the path to sexual liberation & ownership of my feminine sensuality.