Each week, The CSPH answers questions that have been submitted anonymously through our Formspring. This week’s question is: Do you have any tips for male masturbation?
Although it is a well-known fact in our society that many people with penises masturbate, true discussion as to techniques and tips are rarely disclosed. For this reason, some find themselves sticking to the methods they’ve utilized since first exploring masturbation. However, this results in little variety, and some people find themselves bored with their masturbatory routine. To spice up your experiences with masturbation (and hand-jobs!), I have the following recommendations:
First and foremost, I suggest that penis-owners who masturbate incorporate lubricants into their play, if they don’t already. Masturbating “dry,” or without lubrication, can lead some people to masturbate with tight grips in order to stimulate themselves. Some men report that this can result in desensitization to the physical feelings of partnered sexual activity, making it more difficult to orgasm and/or maintain erections during partnered play. That said, not everyone requires lube to masturbate– some penis-owners use their pre-ejaculate (also known as pre-cum), while others will use spit.
Nonetheless, lubricants may add a little variety and sensation to masturbation, especially to those who don’t already use lube. Water- and silicone-based lubes work well, and an advantage to these lubricants specifically is that they are also safe for partnered sexual activity. As always, The CSPH recommends that people use body-safe lubes, so they should be glycerin- and paraben-free. That said, there is a variety of penis masturbation creams, such as Gun Oil’s Stroke 29, which tend to be oil-based and therefore should not be used with latex condoms, as they erode the condom material.
As for techniques, I suggest that as you move your fist/fingers up and down around your penis, you twist your hand. You can also try masturbating with your non-dominant hand, which may take some practice, but will provide different stimulation from what you may be used to. Moreover, you can incorporate both your hands into your masturbatory experiences– for example, as you stroke your penis with one hand, use your other hand to play with your testicles and/or rub the head of your penis. You can also try rubbing and pressing your perineum to stimulate your prostate externally.
Another technique is positioning one hand with your five fingers against the top of your cock’s head, and sliding your hand up and down as your fingers spread along your length. You may find that this technique provides a rather shallow stroke, which some penis-owners prefer. Some individuals also prefer to masturbate by cupping both hands together around the penis, fingers interlocked, and moving their hands up and down. This is a particularly physical exercise, in that it requires you move both arms and perhaps even your hips, if you so desire. Another two-hand technique that you may find enjoyable is using both hands on the shaft, one covering the lower shaft and the other holding the top, and twisting back and forth in opposite directions. This technique in particular requires lubrication, as doing it without may cause irritation of the shaft’s skin. For more information on techniques, visit The Tireless Hand, a website that provides .GIFs for ease of instruction.
That said, masturbation techniques are not restricted solely to playing with your penis– you can also incorporate anal play into your solo experiences. It should be noted that not all anal play is penetrative, in that many people enjoy stimulating their anus with either fingers or toys. However, many people also enjoy anal penetration, which can range from light teasing to prostate massage to full-on fucking. While prostate massage, also known as prostate milking, is a medical procedure for men with prostate issues such as prostatitis, it is also a pleasurable experience that entails rubbing the prostate for stimulation. To find your prostate with your fingers, insert one or two (depending on your comfort level) into your ass in a position that allows you to curl your fingers in the direction of your belly. Towards your belly is where your prostate lies, usually a couple of inches within the rectum. Initially, you might find that you lose your erection upon first stimulating your prostate. This is completely natural, and requires only that you continue playing with your penis to regain an erection.
If you’re interested in playing with your butt but are worried about poo, I recommend pursuing this activity in the shower, following a thorough cleaning of the asshole. While fecal matter is not stored within the rectum unless a bowel movement is imminent, some find that anal play in the shower particularly assuages their concerns about cleanliness.
Lastly, some people find that incorporating sex toys into their masturbation to be incredibly exciting and pleasurable. There is a multitude of masturbation sleeves that can be bought online or at your local sex toy shops. These masturbation sleeves can be reusable, such as the Fleshlight, or they can be intended for single-use, such as Tenga Eggs. Masturbation sleeves come in a wide variety of sizes, textures, and materials, so you may want to do some research and read reviews before opting for a specific one.
Another category of toys you can incorporate into masturbation are general anal toys, such as butt-plugs and dildos, and prostate stimulators specifically, such as the Aneros toy line. Some individuals also enjoy utilizing vibrators, either within their butt or to play with the sensitive nerve endings along the anus. That said, before you stick anything in your butt, it’s absolutely important for the toy to be butt-friendly– the toy should have a base, which will prevent your body from swallowing the entire object. If an object is stuck in your butt and you are unable to remove it, you should seek immediate medical attention. While some may find this embarrassing, it’s important to remember that medical professionals are trained and experienced in handling these situations. Not only is this their job, but these issues are surprisingly common.